It's no secret that children need loving parents, but for decades, same-sex couples raising families have faced opposition from those who claim that growing up with two moms or two fathers might be bad for kids. It's unfortunate that this fight still needs to be fought, but research may be the key to helping everyone understand that having loving parents is more important for a child's development than who those parents love. Studies confirm kids raised in lesbian and gay families grow up to be just fine, and basically the same as people who were raise in heteronormative households.
Beaver Cleaver would have trouble recognizing the typical American family today. Households where both a mother and a father are present make up only Census Bureau.
And while, today, I do feel all of those things for both of my gay sons, I still feel deep shame about how I acted toward them when they first came out. In those dreams, I had a tow-headed, blue-eyed, loving grandson just like Luke. I had it all planned out.
Excerpts from the book :. She came out nearly 20 years ago when I was in high school. It was a raw and difficult time.
A very large body of social science research going back decades has documented the vital and unique role of mothers and of fathers in childhood development. These studies have also demonstrated the negative psychological, educational, and social effects on children who have been deprived of growing up in a home with both biological parents who are married to each other. A very brief summary of findings on the mothers' unique and crucial role in childhood development would include these points:.
But what you and everyone else wants to know is what is it really like growing up with gay parents? Nonetheless, everyone wants to know: how did your mum find out? How did he tell you?
If you are reading this you are most likely trying to be a good parent in an extremely confusing situation and are probably getting lots of conflicting information. You are doing the right thing and can get through this. Take a deep breath.
When sociologist Tristan Bridges read a New York Times story about how often parents ask Google if their kids are geniuses — 2. A lot, as it turns out. And questions about the sexuality of sons were far more common that parallel search queries about daughters.
Overview: We identified 79 scholarly studies that met our criteria for adding to knowledge about the well-being of children with gay or lesbian parents. Of those studies, 75 concluded that children of gay or lesbian parents fare no worse than other children. While many of the sample sizes were small, and some studies lacked a control group, researchers regard such studies as providing the best available knowledge about child adjustment, and do not view large, representative samples as essential.